How to deal with feeling the "Blues"?

I just thought that adding this tid-bit might be an interesting subject for reading because I know for sure there will be somebody out there who may feels "depressed" about something in their life so this is my little "cheer-up" from one of my favourite websites.

The blues...Stop singing them.
Here's how Disappointments - nobody likes them. We all like to win and feel happy and powerful. But sometimes life has disappointments - whether it's being betrayed by a friend, having your boyfriend cheat on you, or not getting the job or into the school you want.
What happens to you when you get the blues? You have every right to feel sad. But can you process your feelings about a bad event while going on with your life? Or do the blues send you into a Stuart Smalley Shame Spiral that makes you feel horrible about everything in your life? The point is, when you get the blues, you need to get empowered again. That means taking steps to build your self-esteem from every angle.

Take care of yourself
Yeah, you know. Get a haircut, try new make up, but some new jeans. People do these things because they work. Why? They make you feel good. It's not about becoming a super model - it's about taking care of yourself.
Work out the stress
Working out helps relieve stress and makes you feel strong - watch out Xena! Vigorous exercise also stimulates endorphines -- the natural "feel good" chemical in our brains. (Some people call it the runner's high). Get in the pool, on the track, or on the court and play hard.

GIVE unto others
Studies have shown that the reason some economically disadvantaged people get depressed is because they can't afford to give. We're not suggesting buying gifts for all your friends. But giving of yourself, your time, energy, experience makes you feel powerful. It shows that you have so much you can afford to share. So find somewhere to volunteer - visit a nursing home, become a candy striper at a hospital, walk dogs at your local animal shelter. You'll feel great.

Feel ALL your feelings
Sometimes feeling sad or a little depressed colors everything. Try not to judge yourself or evaluate your life when you're bummed. Remember, you can feel more than one feeling at once -- so be sad about the disappointment, but find things to be happy and grateful about (a good grade, your home, a good friend). You'll see there's more good in your life than bad things. And by the way, don't stuff your feelings with food or smokes or booze. Stay present and face your emotions, then you can get to the other side.

When you can't get out
Some people are prone to depression and can't get out of the blues on their own. If you feel really stuck and start to feel like you can't handle your sad feelings - get some help. Don't be embarrassed. Most people have to seek professional help at some point in their lives. Take some actions - talk to a counselor at school, tell your parents, go to a teacher you trust and tell her you're having a hard time. Just taking this action will make you feel better - afterall, you've done something positive for yourself.

Adapted from beingagirl.com

Cheers......

Are you having a burnout?

Burnt Out is actually the extreme form of work stress one can suffer....and is common cause of unhappiness at work place. Could be due to the present working environment eg multitasking, a new boss or team member, unclear or changing job targets, increasing higher targets.
All these can lead to burnout....which in turn lead to depression that may show up as suffering from physical, mental and emotional symptoms. Physical symptoms...as in frequeant illness like headaches, migraines, gastric pains, cold, diarrhoea and heart palpitations. And even raise a person's blood pressure that may lead to heart attack or strokes. For common emotional and mental symptoms may include the feelings of sadness, helplessness, emptiness or even a sense of losing control of the situation. There are warning signs of a crisis of suffering a burnout....getting sick more frequently, feeling sad, smoking or drinking more than usual, loss of appetite, sleeplessness, fatigue, sexual disfunctions, easily irritable, loss of confidence, becoming cynical, feeling of self-doubt, lack of motivation and new ideas.
There is a write-up in the newspaper about this subject...and it said that we should not look at burnout as a personal weakness or failure....but as a collective responsibility of the individual, the company ( meaning the management ) and the society. Lastly it is not really anybody's fault becoz people have different stress thresholds....some can juggle 2 or 3 stressful situations at the same time while others may not even cope with one. Even happy event like getting marry can put lots of stress on some ( getting cold feet at the last minute - remember the recent case in the US where the girl ran off and pretend to be kidnapped ), moving house, the death of a loved one or a change of job even due to a promotion. The perfectionists and the people with high expectations are more prone to burnout so are the same to the Mr Nice Guy types...And yes! the working mothers...they are more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety than men becoz their bearing a greater load both at home and at work. Teachers and those in the service industries who have to please both boss and clients (can be customers, students, parents ) are most likely to face stressful situations and suffer from burnout. Some companies are aware of this and are actively helping their employee to cope or deal with stress management while others will only learn the unfortunate way after something terrible like a suicide occurs.
People having this problem....and they also help themselves by first knowing that you have a burnout or close to having one then can start trying to tackle it which is the first step towards beating it. A vacation...some time away from the frency to realise that there is more to life than work. Talking about the problem with friends and family....remember this "a problem shared is a problem halved". Or the worst situation...people should also be realistic about their abilities and talk to their boss if they feel that they are being made to shoulder too much. In doing that, they are doing the company and themselves a favour. Balancing work and life helps....spending time with family, taking holidays, doing physical exercise and having hobbies are ways to combat burnout.....If when all else fails, then "quit" ( maybe easier said than done for most ) - people may be better off moving into another line of work altogether. Ask yourself this, "Is your job really worth giving your life for?", Then you will find your solution to the above.

Don't rock the boat....baby.

Sighed....just lost for words!!!!

Different people, different lifestyles

Oh....I noticed when I read today's Strait Times - Life columnabout feedbacks on marriage, commitment, love, and cute thing.It is about Prince Charles, Princess Diana and Camilla Parker. Andhow people's view of the whole thing. One felt that "love" is over-rated in present times...and true love can happen if the person has moral and religious obligation to stay marriged regardlessof the state of their union. Good measurement? Man! they haveto be very strong in their believe in God for that. At the end...PrinceCharles marriaged Camilla...his first love. "Love" conquered all.Well....to me, it is not a good example due to the fact that theylive a "spectacular" lifestyle a fairy-tale to most of us. Unthinkable!Their worries of the day....are which party or function to attend forthe day?....whose design they are going to wear?....what food theyare going to put into their mouth to eat?....who is the lucky personto clean their ass after they are done?....how does they look duringthe day? Man! we gotto to pay bills, meet deadlines, bring homethe bacons and ensured the kids/spouse/in-law are happy and fed.hahaha....power!!! So for me....I go for "commitment". Commitmentto a relationship be it as a couple, as friends or whatever is the mostimportant first step. It is more than a matter of "give and take" but"respect" for one another. Giving "space" to breath, to have ownfriends and activities while doing one's own things. No control butblind trust....of course with fully understanding and open communication.Powerful ideals.....hehehe and it is not easy to do but for the sake of"love", one must try. Do you agree?Just my talking point for the day....open to discussion.Take care...and have a nice day ahead and a great weekend too.

Chelsea....win the EPL title.

Man...after waiting for 50 years they finally won the title again. Believed it or not, they only won it twice in the 100 years since the club started.
Anyway....I am very very happy to see them win this, specially since the Russian Billionaire Roman bought the club last season. I was hoping they can do it last time round but somehow Ranieri is too nice to handle the millionaire footballers who had ego as big as the their accounts.
Those shitheads....can't do a thing right.
Now...the choosen one hehehe JOSE the "airhead" managed it after getting lot of sticks earlier and boy! it makes it worth the while. True! he is bashful and with a motor-mouth, he is a special one. Well done to you....Jose, you earned your keeps.
Even...when I betted against them in their last match at Bolton, I'm very happy to lose the bet
to see them finally win the title. Yes! I can see them win again this Wednesday against Liverpool
for their away match in the Euro League Championship match. I hope to see them go all the way
to the final against AC Milan. That's will be great fun....way to go. Chelsea!!! Cheers to all the fans the world over for the way the team won the title this year.....to many more good years!!!

My world

yah....my honey is actually everything to me. After finishing my Saturday's night shift, totally relaxed knowing that there will be 4 days of rest and that I am meeting with my honey on Monday. Go home and sleep as usual then wake up to find a sms....unable to make it due to personal commitment. This is where my world starts to come crushing down....man! My body starts to shut down...just has nothing to look forward to. Man! 4 days of "zero" things....to think
of or to be happy for. Luckily my honey comes to my aid....pantyless and all that, helps to take my mind off the disappointment. She is an angel in my eyes....understand me very well and will try her best to make things smooth and horny. Anyway....another sms comes and my hope is up again. Still may be able to see her maybe in the night or on Wednesday.
This morning went to buy $10 worth of toto....1.5million. Hope to be the winner, so that I can elope with my honey so that my world is complete.
Man cannot do without a good woman....but a good woman can do without any man. Right?

TOTO - buy a hope....

Guess that is a reason most people invest in that....I called it an investment becoz it gives a sense of possibility to coming out "RICH" as you feel good about winning while waiting for the result to be out. All that time....your hope is up and it takes your mind off anything that is troubling you. I should know...that is what I feel whenever I invest some money in it. The "shiok" feeling is powerful....especially when times are hard and dreams are few and way apart.
Guess that is the way for most...power to the people!!!
Today's top jackpot prize is 1.5million....that can help me a mega big deal!!! To settle my and my honey debts....buy darling new car, down payment to her dream condo, tour the world...and lookout for a beautiful place to elope, start a new life....brand new with all possibilities open. That is my hope....share my future and winning with my honey....my world!