10 steps to enjoying each other better...and to understand each other too.
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not.
Let's face it, guys!!! there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials ! or beauty treatments.
And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna have to live with what your guy is like! ( ....power! right? )
1) Chill-out, and love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eyes.
2) Always talk things out. Now guys, I know this is not your favorite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works for the gals too. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3) Do stuff together. Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks for another day at the window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!
4) Meet each other halfway. If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5) Show your love. Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if you have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a "Valentine's Day" card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes hehehe or just to sabo him ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6) Respect each other. Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if it's funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7) Bury the past. Stop bringing up the past. Gals....don't bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him "jealous or unhappy". And guys, don't talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel "unhappy" and she might think that you saying all this b'cos you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.
8) Sit on your jealousy. All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and eaves-dropping on conversations, you know something is wrong.... with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.
9) Keep your commitments to each other. If your partner is standing you up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make yourpartner your priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her.
10) Be honest. Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of.... a fly! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being "bitingly" cruel. When you're hurt, say so, and when you're angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can't be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
I don't want my LOVE LIFE to be "BAD".
So....... "GOOD LUCK" with yours. My honey.
Saturday, September 17, 2005
Tuesday, September 13, 2005
A collection of jokes....enjoy!!
WOMEN'S REVENGE
"Cash, cheque or charge?" I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.
As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse.
"So, do you always carry your TV remote?" I asked. "No," she replied, "but my husband
refused to come shopping with me, and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to
him legally."
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN from (A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women.
I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax,
pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root,
and still be afraid of a spider.
MARRIAGE SEMINAR
While attending a Marriage Seminar dealing with communication,
Tom and his wife Grace listened to the instructor,
"It is essential that husbands and wives know each other's likes and dislikes."
He addressed the man, "Can you name your wife's favourite flower?"
Tom leaned over, touched his wife's arm gently and whispered, "It's Homepride, isn't it?
CIGARETTES AND TAMPONS
A man walks into a pharmacy and wanders up and down the aisles.
The sales girl notices him and asks him if she can help him.
He answers that he is looking for a box of tampons for his wife.
She directs him down the correct aisle.
A few minutes later, he deposits a huge bag of cotton balls and a ball
of string on the counter.
She says, confused, "Sir, I thought you were looking for some tampons
for your wife? He answers, " You see, it's like this, yesterday, I sent
my wife to the store to get me a carton of cigarettes, and she came back
with a tin of tobacco and some rolling papers; cause it's sooo-ooo--oo-
ooo much cheaper.
So, I figure if I have to roll my own .......... so does she.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a
word. An earlier discussion had led to an argument and now neither
of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs, the husband
asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"
"Yep," the wife replied, "in-laws."
W O R D S
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day... 30,000 to a man's 15,000.
The wife replied, "The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything
to men... The husband then turned to his wife and asked, "What?"
CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, "I don't know how you can be
so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
" The wife responded, "Allow me to explain. God made me beautiful
so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be
attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who
should brew the coffee each morning.
The wife said, "You should do it, because you get up first,
and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee."
The husband said, " You are in charge of cooking around here
and you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just
wait for my coffee."
Wife replies, "No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the
Bible that the man should do the coffee."
Husband replies, "I can't believe that, show me."
So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament
and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says.........."HEBREWS"
The Silent Treatment. ( I kena from my honey....hehehe not a nice
feeling...a mental torture, believed me when I said this )
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE),
he wrote on a piece of paper, "Please wake me at 5:00 AM."
He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and
he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife
hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed.
The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM. Wake up."
Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests. God may have created
man before woman, but there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
SEND THIS TO SMART WOMEN WHO NEED A LAUGH AND TO MEN
YOU THINK CAN HANDLE IT ! CHEERS......for a laugh.
"Cash, cheque or charge?" I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.
As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse.
"So, do you always carry your TV remote?" I asked. "No," she replied, "but my husband
refused to come shopping with me, and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to
him legally."
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN from (A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women.
I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax,
pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root,
and still be afraid of a spider.
MARRIAGE SEMINAR
While attending a Marriage Seminar dealing with communication,
Tom and his wife Grace listened to the instructor,
"It is essential that husbands and wives know each other's likes and dislikes."
He addressed the man, "Can you name your wife's favourite flower?"
Tom leaned over, touched his wife's arm gently and whispered, "It's Homepride, isn't it?
CIGARETTES AND TAMPONS
A man walks into a pharmacy and wanders up and down the aisles.
The sales girl notices him and asks him if she can help him.
He answers that he is looking for a box of tampons for his wife.
She directs him down the correct aisle.
A few minutes later, he deposits a huge bag of cotton balls and a ball
of string on the counter.
She says, confused, "Sir, I thought you were looking for some tampons
for your wife? He answers, " You see, it's like this, yesterday, I sent
my wife to the store to get me a carton of cigarettes, and she came back
with a tin of tobacco and some rolling papers; cause it's sooo-ooo--oo-
ooo much cheaper.
So, I figure if I have to roll my own .......... so does she.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a
word. An earlier discussion had led to an argument and now neither
of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs, the husband
asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"
"Yep," the wife replied, "in-laws."
W O R D S
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day... 30,000 to a man's 15,000.
The wife replied, "The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything
to men... The husband then turned to his wife and asked, "What?"
CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, "I don't know how you can be
so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
" The wife responded, "Allow me to explain. God made me beautiful
so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be
attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who
should brew the coffee each morning.
The wife said, "You should do it, because you get up first,
and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee."
The husband said, " You are in charge of cooking around here
and you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just
wait for my coffee."
Wife replies, "No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the
Bible that the man should do the coffee."
Husband replies, "I can't believe that, show me."
So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament
and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says.........."HEBREWS"
The Silent Treatment. ( I kena from my honey....hehehe not a nice
feeling...a mental torture, believed me when I said this )
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight. Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE),
he wrote on a piece of paper, "Please wake me at 5:00 AM."
He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and
he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife
hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed.
The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM. Wake up."
Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests. God may have created
man before woman, but there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece.
SEND THIS TO SMART WOMEN WHO NEED A LAUGH AND TO MEN
YOU THINK CAN HANDLE IT ! CHEERS......for a laugh.
I have my tag box back....
Thanks to my honey....I managed to get it done this morning. Felt like I missed an arm without it becoz I cannot get to see my honey's comment in my blog.
Yep....I have always treasured my honey's present and well-being.....and I do it without asking any thing in return from her. I do it from my heart.....that's it without being told by anyone. Once I said I love someone as deeply as I loved my honey....then I meant it as forever and nothing going to change it.
Yes! I can see my honey needs her space....I don't mind to step aside for her to do what she needs to do until such time when she wants to see or meet me again. I guess I have live with that...thought! no other choice at the moment for me. When a person loves someone....I guess he/she is willing to do whatever it takes to see the other person "happy", only then he/she is "happy" too. I am in this situation at the moment, even when "deep inside" of me.....I am confused, felt completely "helpless", "rejected" and "useless" that I am crying inside my heart but then I still hoping against hope that my honey will return in my arms some days....and only hopefully soon too. There is nothing else that I can do....for the moment, I have done what I must do but still the situation is out of my control. Not a day past without me thinking of her.....I do sms, write regularly without fail....no change in my habit. Only if you have love someone as deep as me then you will and can understand the "hell" I have gone thru for quite a while now. If you know what I mean....
Yep....I have always treasured my honey's present and well-being.....and I do it without asking any thing in return from her. I do it from my heart.....that's it without being told by anyone. Once I said I love someone as deeply as I loved my honey....then I meant it as forever and nothing going to change it.
Yes! I can see my honey needs her space....I don't mind to step aside for her to do what she needs to do until such time when she wants to see or meet me again. I guess I have live with that...thought! no other choice at the moment for me. When a person loves someone....I guess he/she is willing to do whatever it takes to see the other person "happy", only then he/she is "happy" too. I am in this situation at the moment, even when "deep inside" of me.....I am confused, felt completely "helpless", "rejected" and "useless" that I am crying inside my heart but then I still hoping against hope that my honey will return in my arms some days....and only hopefully soon too. There is nothing else that I can do....for the moment, I have done what I must do but still the situation is out of my control. Not a day past without me thinking of her.....I do sms, write regularly without fail....no change in my habit. Only if you have love someone as deep as me then you will and can understand the "hell" I have gone thru for quite a while now. If you know what I mean....
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